Your measuring the number of messages on the site. The only thing that matters is how you look. On dating apps, the resource is people. If you do, you then move to the sort of text-messaging interface that all dating-app users are duly familiar with. Do not directly link to comments in other subs.
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Persistence and perseverance.
Right, they say men who make k or more are in the 90th percentile for messages received, which isn't quite the same, but at that point it's just quibbling. Hope this helps. Or do both at once, it doesn't hurt to keep your profile up. Believe me it took some time and pushing myself out of my comfort zone consistently.